tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post8390036409876486141..comments2023-11-18T09:28:47.732-08:00Comments on Living here now: Report from Pillville: Cake and a Plot TwistDenise Emanuel Clemenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10982725113569943337noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-72006580338509386522015-09-21T15:10:50.427-07:002015-09-21T15:10:50.427-07:00Sounds like panic on drugs about life changes and ...Sounds like panic on drugs about life changes and death. We are here to cushion the blows. You have done an amazing job with your mother. Anyone who disagrees with what you and she decide can just step right up and take their turn. Sending hugs. N2N2https://www.blogger.com/profile/09508740809219902631noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-69506824523147547662015-09-21T09:19:33.635-07:002015-09-21T09:19:33.635-07:00I am fairly new to your blog and I hope you don...I am fairly new to your blog and I hope you don't mind me weighing in on this. It resonates with me because I have gone through something similar. I am so sorry. This stuff with older parents is really harsh - there is no getting around it. Her reaction is more typical than you might imagine. She is afraid. At 91, this will be a huge change and people from that generation never wanted to end up in a nursing home. However, there comes a time when it is the best choice. My mother went through the same thing. She broke all of our hearts with her anger and recrimination. But we understood it was really her fear of change and her fear of death she was angry at, not us. It took her about a month to adjust to the new living situation. Hang in there. You are doing the right thing, and on some level she knows it.Colettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13929646037752189809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-71905118183613023592015-09-20T02:36:12.204-07:002015-09-20T02:36:12.204-07:00Old people can turn on a sixpence and become almos...Old people can turn on a sixpence and become almost devilish in their shouting, so I am not at all surprised how it has affected you this latest drama... I am happy though that the party went well and everyone was happy.. I hope the bruises to your heart ease soon dear girl and that you remain the positive upbeat person you naturally are* Life is very hard especially for those nearing the end, and I am sure that your mother regrets shouting, but she is probably so exasperated at how she is now, she turns on those nearest and dearest to her,,, have a great week and relax, we all know how much you have done for her, and if the rest of the family wont take responsibility it is time you allowed professionals to care for her.. You do still have a life to live yet... all the best JAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05689022026289352391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-68534708847957126882015-09-19T20:15:23.208-07:002015-09-19T20:15:23.208-07:00Why the hell can't ONE DAMN THING BE SIMPLE?
...Why the hell can't ONE DAMN THING BE SIMPLE?<br /><br />I'm sorry, Denise. <br /><br />(It's the steroids. Even the word makes my spine tingle with the memory of three month old Sophie's rage when on steroids).Elizabethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03313726816776097840noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-48437720631087546622015-09-19T12:27:27.105-07:002015-09-19T12:27:27.105-07:00Yep - steroids. They turned my father into a very...Yep - steroids. They turned my father into a very mean person. I reached the point where I would not pick up the phone when caller id said it was him. Just could not take the yelling. As far as family thinking you're shirking, suggest that maybe it is their turn. My turn was two years and it was extremely trying and debilitating. You've done right by your Mom.Allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475433199308666648noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-78448237224527664572015-09-19T11:07:33.930-07:002015-09-19T11:07:33.930-07:00My mother got so angry and mean in her last days. ...My mother got so angry and mean in her last days. And she wasn't on steroids. She was in pain and on painkillers and had dementia and it was horrible. It was just horrible. None of this is easy. Somehow, you will get through and so will she and if it is time for you to retire as her main caregiver, then it is time and no one else has the right to say a damn thing unless they are ready to step forward and take over. <br />That's just my two cents and it's worth probably even less. <br />But I love you. <br />Ms. Moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09776404747858099919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-42672759927751552092015-09-19T10:29:22.841-07:002015-09-19T10:29:22.841-07:00It's the steroids. I had a cortisone injection...It's the steroids. I had a cortisone injection in my hip once, for the pain, and in the days following i fought with everyone in my life in the most horrendous way, and afterwards i just could not for the life of me understand what i had been so angry about. i have never taken another one of those injections. I have preferred to live with the pain that to be so godawful mean. Your mom didn't mean most of what she said, at least not in the way she said it. The steroids flipped the switch. <br /><br />37paddingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12400464105403622384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2382277614743623418.post-21051657628353000062015-09-19T10:18:24.658-07:002015-09-19T10:18:24.658-07:00Let us be the cushions that soften the blows. You ...Let us be the cushions that soften the blows. You will still get hurt, but the bruises will heal quicker. Elsewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18205062128898300234noreply@blogger.com