Monday, June 2, 2014

And then this happened.



About twenty minutes into the wait for morphine early this morning, I called hospice. Absolutely not acceptable, the on-call nurse told me when she called me back. I told her I wanted to take D home. That the facility, while okay, was not stellar. The twenty-five minute wait for morphine on the heels of the dream was what I needed to full-out advocate for a change. Besides, I had told D I would get him to my place, and  I wanted to keep my promise to him. The on-call nurse from hospice was encouraging. When the regular hospice nurse came to evaluate and ask him if he felt up to being moved, he nodded and smiled, and a look of relief settled over him.

It was a topsy-turvy day filled with effort (Thank you, hospice nurses), but D made it to my house around 3:30. His bed and equipment were there waiting. After dinner, his daughter settled in on the couch, while his long-time friend L and I chatted with the nurse and each other.

This house is pretty big, but it's so full of love that the walls are bulging.

16 comments:

Elizabeth Harper said...

If one must leave this earth and those they love too early, how wonderful it must be to do so in a place as you describe, "So full of love that the walls are bulging."

I was so pleased to see your post and D's daughter's update and to know that you had been able to bring him home.

My heart aches for you all knowing that these will be your last days with D, but how lovely to be able to love him up as he leaves this life for whatever comes next.

Sending you big hugs & love from across the sea.

N2 said...

You are a warrior advocate for your man. He is lucky to have you. Glad you have support, too. Sending more love to fill the house. x0 N

37paddington said...

I am glad he is home.

ain't for city gals said...

You won't regret a second of it! The love is what you will remember....

S Kay Murphy said...

Girl, this is exactly what I asked the Universe--for all of you to be surrounded in Love. Holding you in my thoughts....

lily cedar said...

I'm glad. Take care of yourself too Denise. Sending hugs and prayers.

Mel said...

Walls bulging with love, what a beautiful thing that must be. My heart is heavy with knowing what you must be enduring. Your strength and love are amazing. Remember to take care of yourself too.
xo

Ms. Moon said...

This is the sort of grace which defines the word.
May his transition be peaceful. May all of that love sustain you all.

Anonymous said...

Heartfelt wish for you, D, his daughter and friends, your mom, and all around you, to be pillowed in all the bulging love in the Universe through these days. Smooth journeys and softest of landings to you all.

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Xoxoxo.

Suz said...

you truly are a loving woman
I have taken care of someone while in hospice in my home
It was the most wonderful thing
tiring,but what a blessing to be there... for all of you

Elizabeth said...

Oh I am glad. Bless you, Denise.

Elsewhere said...

Well done, Denise. Give the man that loves you a kiss, and tell him we'll be here with you.
Your readers that love you,
Els

Cathy H-S said...

How difficult, and how right. May that strength and grace persist and sustain you, and that love surround you all, through all this voyage.

Romy WYLLIE said...

Prayers and blessings to you. You are giving your beloved friend all he wants and needs. May the end be easy and peaceful. As others have said, take care of yourself, too.
Romy

janzi said...

my heart aches for you as it does for all your followers... knowing that after a long time your healing heart was getting mended by knowing this wonderful man.. and then this happens and all the days of sorrow are going to be back... meanwhile I applaud your kindness and love allowing him to come to your house for his last days and the fact that his daughter could stay too is wonderful... you have such a big big heart, I hope all the love that you feel, will h elp you in these closing days... hugs millions of them for you and him... thinking of you ... from across the pond.. jeannine...janzi..